Fantasizing about romance and sex is something that is inherent within the human species. It applies to both men and women, even though the former may have a tendency to fantasize more often. Sexual fantasies are not very different from the dreams that we have, which is essentially a way to understand what we want and how to get it.
Sexual fantasies vary from individual to individual and they can be quite diverse. However, based on large-scale surveys, some sexual fantasies have been found to be most prevalent among the masses. Here’s a look at the five most common sexual fantasies that people have.
Multi-partner sex – If there are three partners, it is referred to as threesome. In case of more members, the act becomes an orgy. People often fantasize about multi-partner sex, as they may not be getting adequate physical and emotional satisfaction from a single partner. Studies have revealed that men are more likely to think about multi-partner sex. In comparison, women would fantasize about same-sex partners or celebrities they feel attracted to.
BDSM – A form of erotic practice, BDSM represents various sexual dynamics such as bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism. In such forms of sex, one partner plays the dominant role whereas the other plays the submissive part. BDSM is considered okay, as long as it does not lead to physical or emotional trauma. If you want to try BDSM with your partner, it would be better to first discuss it with them.
Voyeurism or exhibitionism – Voyeurism is when you enjoy secretly watching someone in their private moments or sexual acts. Exhibitionism is just the opposite, wherein you derive pleasure by exposing yourself to unsuspecting participants or letting them watch you during your sexual act. You can have such fantasies, but avoid implementing them in the real world. That’s because voyeurism or exhibitionism in the real world can get you in legal trouble.
Sex in public place – People often fantasize about having sex in public places such as park, beach, by the river or lake, in the wild, etc. These too should not be attempted in real life, as sexual acts in public places are illegal.
Role-play – This is when you assume different identities for yourself and your partner. For example, you can fantasize about yourself being a doctor and your partner as the patient. Similarly, there can be other identities such as teacher-student, nurse-patient, boss-secretary, etc. Some people also like to dress up like popular characters that they may have seen in a movie or read in a book. In such cases, the practice is referred to as cosplay.
Sexual fantasies are usually harmless, as long as you do not overdo it. You should ensure that sexual fantasies do not adversely impact your relations or work. In case you want to make your sexual fantasies real, make sure you have the consent of your partner and others who may be involved. Also make sure that your actions are legal and you are not breaking any laws.