When an individual discovers that they have been cheated by their partner, it results in an intense emotional shock and various other feelings such as anger, abandonment and even thoughts about suicide and revenge. This is especially true if your partner was someone you had trusted all your life and you had been loyal to them all throughout. So, what do you do when you find that your partner is cheating on you? Well, there’s no need to get mad, even though you may have every reason to do so. Here are some things that can help you deal with a cheating partner.
Find the entire story: Don’t assume things based on a few pieces of evidence. Also, don’t believe what others may be telling you. The best way is to talk to your partner directly and ask them about the doubts you have in your mind. How your partner reacts to your questions can give you clues about whether they are lying or telling the truth.
Can you salvage the relationship: Once you are completely sure that your partner has cheated on you, the next question you need to ask is whether you want to save the relationship or let it go and move on. It is possible that the infidelity may have been a one-off event and your partner may be actually feeling sorry about it. Or it can also be that your partner no longer values the relationship they have with you. You need to take decisions based on these factors.
Avoid hasty decisions: It can be tough to deal with a cheating partner, but avoid taking hasty decisions. Take time to plan ahead and keep yourself busy with your work, hobbies, friends and family members. Taking hasty decisions might complicate the situation and strain the relationship even further.
Think revenge, but don’t act on it: You are free to make plans about taking revenge on your cheating partner, but don’t act on such plans. Thoughts about revenge can actually be useful as a short-term coping mechanism. However, don’t overdo it, as it is likely to make you stressed and anxious. Taking revenge is not an option since you are not going to gain anything from it.
Last but not least, you need to find the reasons for your partner’s infidelity. It’s possible that some of your actions or behavior may have been responsible for it. If you find such reasons, you can make necessary changes, which might help save your relationship. It will also be useful in your future relationships, if the current one has no scope left for being rescued.