Sex is an important aspect of healthy relationships and the key to a successful, happy marriage. But how many times do you need to have sex to be happy in a marriage? Well, it’s a tough question to answer, but a recent study conducted by University of Chicago has claimed to find the exact number of times you need to have sex to feel happy.
The study involved a survey of more than 30,000 people, who were tracked for a period of around 40 years. Such large-scale and long-term studies are quite rare, but they are very effective in getting near-perfect results. The findings of the study have been published in a leading peer-reviewed journal called Archives of Sexual Behavior. The study says that married couple who want to be happy and satisfied should ideally have sex 51 times a year, which is around once every week.
The findings of the study can be a cause for concern for the current generation, as other surveys reveal that the current generation couples are having less sex as compared to earlier generations. In comparison to data collected 20 years back, married couples from the current generation are having 9 times less sex than earlier. It’s possible that the distractions of technology and information are taking a toll on peoples’ sex lives.
The study mentions that there are people at both ends of the spectrum, i.e. people who have sex 2-3 times or more every week and those who have fewer numbers every month. The average of these comes out around one session per week, which is now being considered as the standard for married couples. The study also notes that increasing the frequency of sex every week does not lead to any significant increase in happiness or satisfaction. Things that really matter include being emotionally connected with your partner. If both partners share healthy emotional bonds, they will derive more happiness from sex.
Expressing their views on the study, some experts said that frequency of sex can vary from couple to couple and there can’t be a fixed number to it. For example, newly married couples may have a higher frequency of sex as compared to couples who have been married for quite some time. Experts said that instead of focusing on the numbers, couples should express their needs more openly and try to satisfy each other. Frequency of sex may be statistically relevant, but in real life what truly matters is that both partners should be satisfied with their sex life.